Harmony & Keeping The Peace Are Opposites

Only one is a genuinely pleasant experience for everyone.

I had a difficult conversation last night, and I’m glad I did. Confronting people about harm they caused you is never easy, but after having leaned into discomfort numerous times thanks to Love First’s foundational Embrace Vulnerability practice, I’ve become strangely comfortable having all sorts of uncomfortable conversations.

While occasionally tense, things never got heated or unpleasant—a testament to our mutual respect for each other as human beings, and our shared commitment to non-violent communication. The emotions only really escalated (on both our ends) when I shared what mattered most to me, all logic and reasoning and “right or wrong”-ness aside:

I felt hurt by their actions, and that there remained an imbalance that left us in disharmony with one another.

I was hoping to feel heard and seen in my pain, and expressed that I just wanted us to come to a place of harmony. We didn’t need to be close friends, or much of anything at all even. I wanted to have balance restored so th…